Teenagers are aggressive and honestly tiring. They have the tendency to run wild and their brains are a bit crazy while they go through the transitioning stage. If only there could be a manual that can teach parents how to deal with their growing children.
Release or set limits? Punish or try to understand? Many parents are lost when it comes to the education of their rebellious teenagers in these fast and multimedia times. Here are some tips for parents to keep your stress level low.
The Challenge: Parenting Teenagers
Household chores and cleaning up
Your house is not a pigeon house. Set limits and make clear agreements about the do’s and don’ts. This way it stays fun and livable. And occasionally cozy. Yet it is not evident that your adolescent spontaneously grasps dustpan and dustpan. Therefore make clear agreements about who should do those odd jobs. How, when and for how long. Concrete instructions work better than vague threats.
Involve them in DIY projects like tiling the old sink. You can let hem handle reading through tiling gear reviews and even purchase the materials and the gears needed according to their reading and research. That way, they are more involved and they get to understand the essence of what they are doing. Much more, you help them mature into a better person by handling bigger responsibilities at home.
Privacy and communication
Respect the privacy of your adolescents. Keep away from their things and from their messages. Their biotope is theirs. Even though a bomb seems to explode there. Keeping basic hygiene in mind must be possible.
Without communication you are the bobbin. Talk to your adolescent as much as possible. Eating together is often a good start. Doesn’t much come out? Let it feel that you are there for them. Absolutely to be avoided: fishing and picking.
Friend and bickering siblings
Try to be impartial when it comes to sibling fights and misunderstandings. They usually solve it themselves and learn lessons from it. Win win. Note too that your teenager views friends as the most important. Family comes second. So, you will have to move up and have to let go. Not easy, but you can do it. Your children need it to build their own self.
You spend years on the school desks. So they better make the right choice. Be open to what teenagers want and can do. Set your own dreams aside. Most are cheating. You can’t just laugh at school fatigue. Talk about it and see what lies at the basis. Put less emphasis on points and performance. Try to reduce stress. Do your adolescents set the bar too high? Tell them they are more than the points on a report.
Fear of failure can hinder adolescents from learning. They are stuck in a panic, in a wrong way of thinking. Don’t get stuck with it, but tackle it with them. Helping with the homework is allowed, not making it in their place. Teach your teenagers mainly to plan and structure.
A lot of teenagers drop out on a hobby level. Commitments will not work, motivating to keep going for a while perhaps. You should also be able to simply hang around in the seat. A little less ‘must’ must also be possible. However, are your teenagers busy, busy, busy? It is high time to scrape off crowded calendars. set a good example yourself and find some zen. Switch off your mobile phone and breathe.
It’s The Puber Time
A teenager’s brain makes spectacular leaps. These jumps cause typical teenage behavior. A portion of paranoia and a dash of egocentrism, for example. They can’t help it. Pounding through and discussing. Call black when you say white. It is all because of the adjustments in the brain of your adolescent. However, that does not mean that you are not allowed to respond. Just keep setting limits. And try to stimulate the ‘wise’ part.
Don’t fall into the trap of bickering. Allow high flare-up emotions to cool down first. And then you talk. Take the first step and do not focus too much on the problems. Well on the fine things. Whether they will listen is another matter. Teenagers look at themselves with new eyes. And to you. And see where you fall short. And find you embarrassing. Yet you are still far from being discarded.